If You Build It, Maybe They Will Come?

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What do you love? I’m not talking about the people you love, but what is that thing that fills you with emotion? We all have skill sets and things we do well, but what is that thing that makes you feel alive? Everyday life can often feel mundane as we go through the motions. What is that thing that energizes you? What is the thing you would do if you didn’t give a crap about what anyone thought? For me, it’s this blog and the message behind it.  I have known I wanted to start my own blog for a few minutes, but blogging intimidated me and honestly, still does. I am of the age where we didn’t have Facebook in college. I’m like that weird age where I know a little bit more about technology than my Grandmother, but not much. I get mad at my devices and I miss my Blackberry every single day. I’m usually a pretty positive person, but when it came to launching this blog, I felt insecure. What if people don’t like my writing? What if this blog doesn’t look professional? What if people leave negative comments? What if no one reads it at all? There was only one thing to do. It was time to channel some Brené Brown. Brené Brown has spent over two decades studying shame, empathy, courage and vulnerability. She’s also the author of five New York Times bestsellers. Brené Brown says this:

“A lot of cheap seats in the arena are filled with people who never venture onto the floor. They just hurl mean-spirited criticisms and put-downs from a safe distance. The problem is, when we stop caring what people think and stop feeling hurt by cruelty, we lose our ability to connect. But when we’re defined by what people think, we lose the courage to be vulnerable. Therefore, we need to be selective about the feedback we let into our lives. For me, if you’re not in the arena getting your ass kicked, I’m not interested in your feedback.” – Brené Brown

“If you’re not in the arena getting your ass kicked, I’m not interested in your feedback.” What a bad ass, powerful life statement. As a Mom, I get my ass kicked every day. All parents do. It starts the moment you find out you are pregnant and it never really stops. Parenting is both mental annihilation and physical obliteration depending on the age of  your child and how much sleep you’ve had. Why don’t we just throw in the towel? Apart from the fact that it’s frowned upon to abandon your own child, we do it because we love them and they are our whole world. If I’m already getting my ass kicked by this thing called motherhood, why do I care if I get my ass kicked by this blogging thing? I’m jumping into this arena. I’m ready to take all the punches and fall down. I also made a promise to myself that I will always get back up. I want my kids to not only understand this, but to witness and experience the notion that “true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.” Thank you Brené Brown. Truly, I thank you. I invite you to ask yourself, what do you love? Ask yourself what makes you feel alive and go do that! We need it now more than ever. You are enough and don’t ever be afraid to get your ass kicked when you are in the arena!

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